ARTICLES BY DR. NICKI J. MONTI
Introduction to Articles:
This part of the Articles section is where I will be exploring different areas of interest relevant to me in my professional life. I will be sharing my own experiences and I will at times make you laugh, cry and to think.
My psychoanalytical focus is active and will be apparent not only through what I'm writing, but will also be reflected in what you say and by how you feel as a response to what you read. I suggest you get ready to open your mind, be prepared to be engaged and get involved.
I invite your comments. It's time to look behind the curtain and talk about the issues that are facing us today as real people. Let’s figure out how to address those issues together. It may be painful at times, but it is also guaranteed to be rewarding, challenging and enthralling as well.
Grab an article, read it and let's talk. I’m ready to listen.
Most often we look at betrayal as the end of the world. It isn’t. Betrayal leads to suffering which is a necessary and beneficial part of being human. Exploring the benefits of suffering is what this article offers.
Our lives are filled with choices. Most of those choices are actually of little importance. Often however we jam our time and consciousness with worry over those tiny choice moments when what needs instead to happen is focus on the true and sustaining meaning of life itself and our place and purpose in it. Why are we here, what are we going to do with our time howsoever long it is, and what ways can we find to be truly present to the life before us? How to be or how not to be….that is really the question!
Who are the Gods and Goddesses of today? Celebrities. We imagine them living somewhere beyond our reach in a phantasmagorical place called Mount Olympus. As in Greek and Roman times we love to assign all manner of blame and ridicule to these luminaries, even as we are amazed by them. In truth, they merely offer vivid examples of our own desires, dark tendencies, arrogance and ego-driven entitlements.
The feminist error initiated women into new possibility however at the same time losses were incurred. Women turned into men, which diminished the rich resources they brought to the party in the first place. Now women are reclaiming their own best selves. Current times allow a broad range of choices. Women can now exhibit their full and powerful assets wherever they choose to be.
Everything we’ve done throughout our lives has benefits and teachings. We tend to be embarrassed or back away from or ignore or deny or impugn our histories. This is a mistake. Where we’ve come from is the platform for where we’re going. Every defense has a gift to offer us – as long as we are the employers of that defense rather than the servants. Every so-called flaw can be transformed into a benefit. We are imperfect. So what!
Looking down the long road most often calls us into relationship with those who’ve gone before us. Whether these relationships are smooth sailing or contemptuous they offer sincere and important instruction. Compassion is the aim. Love is the key.